Marriage is a lifelong commitment between a couple and no matter how much they love each other, if they don’t have a similar stance on some topics, then in the future, these can become causes of friction between the two. Moreover, it is very important to deeply know about the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with.
This becomes more important in the case of arranged marriages, where you don’t know the other person very well. Given below are some of the questions which everyone should ask their partner before getting married:
- When was the last time you cried?
This might sound like a silly question but it is quite important as it will let you know about the emotional maturity of your partner. If they answer something like “I never cry” or “I don’t remember when I cried” chances are they either cannot be emotionally vulnerable with you or they like to bottle up their feelings this can be a red flag and you should definitely discuss this to your partner.
- What is your stance on kids?
Many people don’t want kids and many people do. So, it is necessary to know your partner’s stance on the same to avoid any problems in the future. As long as you both have the same point of view on this, things are good to go.
- How important is physical intimacy to you? What do you enjoy?
Sexual compatibility is one of the most important parts of any marriage. Understanding your partner’s needs and preferences will help you in knowing them on a deeper level and will make your connection stronger.
- How would you divide the household chores?
This is the 21st century, where men and women must work equally to successfully run a household. Asking this question (especially from a man) will give you a clear picture of his perspective on marriage and the division of chores. If the other person expects you to do all the work, then it is immediately a red flag.
- How will we divide the finances?
Spouses need to have similar views about finances, especially in terms of savings and investments. Since you are going to spend the rest of your lives together, it is important to think about the money for the future and after retirement. Discuss this with them and understand their stance on spending, saving, and investing money.
- What are your views on infidelity?
Different people have different views on infidelity and have different definitions for it. It is important to ask this question so as to understand their perspective and o make them understand yours as well. This will help you both avoid some very uncomfortable and painful situations in the future.
- What is your love language?
Every person has a different love language, that is, how they receive and give love. Knowing your partner’s love language and telling them about yours will help you both form a deeper connection after marriage and will make your love for each other grow tenfolds. It will also reduce the chances of a communication gap and will help you in avoiding feelings of neglect and loneliness in your marriage.
Therefore, the above-mentioned questions will help you and your partner in starting your married life with a certain clarity about each other and will help you set up healthy boundaries in your matrimony. These questions will also help in avoiding unnecessary conflicts and miscommunications. You will get to know your partner more deeply and intimately because of these questions.
Also read: How to Know That You’re Ready?