Those subtle lip-bites, glossy pouts, unwavering gaze, light touches of hands and the intonation of voice, these seemingly innocuous gestures play an active role in sparking desire. Seduction is the art of creating tension, a rising build-up in the heart and mind that is so intense — your partner’s thoughts are filled with endless visions of you two making love under the sheets.
Seduction is a skill, not for the ones with skimpy time. Rushing things inside the bedroom is one of the surefire ways to wreck the most pleasurable moment of life and miss out on the most gratifying sensations known to mankind. Seduction requires conscious time, effort and more importantly mindfulness towards your partner’s feelings and responses. It is not simply stripping away of the clothing to appear desirous in front of your partner, it means everything that you can do with your clothes on, that incites passion and elevates your desirability in the eyes of your partner. Robert Greene in his novel ‘The Art of Seduction’ rightly says, “Seducers take pleasure in performing and are not weighed down by their identity or by some need to be themselves or to be natural. This freedom of theirs, this fluidity in body and spirit, is what makes them attractive.” The trick is simple, the more you invest in knowing your partner, the more seductive of a partner you can be.
Take It Slow
“Your greatest power in seduction is your ability to turn away, to make others come after you, delaying their satisfaction.” writes Robert Greene.
Anticipation brews seduction in the right flame whereas instant gratification kills it. Nothing is as sexy as your ability to dally pleasure. Run your fingers gently or take time to indulge in intimate massages, whatever you choose make sure you let the fire simmer rather than burning it straight at the top flame. Time is the key. Make a deliberate effort to slow things down, inciting the impulse of burning desire in your partner. Spice up the moments with teasing games to leave your partner whimpering for more. The pleasure of foreplay can make the act much more satisfying but its anticipation is what truly takes the dopamine hit a new high. Flirtatious eye contacts, light and frequent strokes of touches on forearm amidst fragrant candles and a mood-light setting can go a long way in elevating your erotic senses. As humans, we love the chase and it is true all the way till the bedroom. Instant fulfilment smothers desire and adrenaline, thus taking away from our moments of sheer joy. Relish every bit en route to the final destination so as to have a fulfilling journey. Interestingly, Kitty Cavalier of the School of Cheek and Charm once said, “Seduction is not about the culmination or gratification of desire, it is about the thrill of the desire itself. It is the game that is played as the desire comes closer, and closer, and closer, and being able to maintain that tension of wanting for a long, long time”.
The Word ‘No’ Can Be Incredibly Sexy!
You can only get your partner truly weak at their knees if you possess the discretion to speak out this word at the right time. Setting boundaries even at the most vulnerable time of moments, is one of the sexiest things in the world. If played rightly, the word ‘no’ can turn up the heat to a full, as it heightens the anticipation of the experience. The desire of pleasure intensifies to the hilt if you can get your partner to foretaste the experience of what lies ahead. Felice Dunas, co-author of ‘Passion Play: Ancient Secrets for a Lifetime of Health and Happiness through Sensational Sex’, opines that the most tantalising experiences are the tiniest of touches, “…the most delicate brushing of a hair, the slow progress of fingertips of nails. Do it slowly, deliberately, linger on the moment, make your partner wonder what you’ll do next.” Tease your partner mercilessly, this is going to leave your partner’s imagination running wild in frenzy. Nothing is sexier than someone who can hold themselves back if the need be and not sway into the act by falling prey to the situation. Withholding pleasure from your partner can sometimes work in your favour and make your partner more desirous of you than ever before. Your partner is sure to get lost in thoughts of the exciting experience that awaits him in the future.
Become A ‘Rarity’
Present yourself as someone ‘out of the ordinary’. We as humans, do not prize something unless we are made to think of it as a ‘rarity’. The same holds true when seeking partners. When we believe that our partners are unconventional and different from the rest, it fires up the desire in us. As Robert Greene said, “In a society where the roles everyone plays are obvious, the refusal to conform to any standard will excite interest. Be both masculine and feminine, impudent and charming, subtle and outrageous.” It is important to show your partner that you are special and unique. Thinking so, your partner shall relish the joy of being with you to bits. Your beloved will treat you no less than a winning trophy in his life and shall eagerly wait for deeply intimate moments with you. It is only when our partners perceive us as unique, the moments of love-making can reach its pinnacle. To up the seduction game, let your partner feel the fear of losing you; this is bound to take your appeal numerous notches higher.
The same routine has never excited anyone. If you want to seduce your partner to the core, you have to surprise them and do something they are not expecting. Flirting goes a long way in building attraction. Flirt your way up till the bedroom, draping a piece that flatters your shape. Build the mood by playful, light touching. Drive your beloved crazy by an ultra-low back massage. Scented oil and dim lights will only add up in creating the mood you wish to incite. Make it steamier by an intense kissing session which involves the tongue. The tongue is known to be a great stimulator for men. As Felice Dunas, co-author of ‘Passion Play’ writes, “The tongue muscle actually goes down to the throat, so by sucking on his tongue, you’re indirectly stimulating the muscles in his neck and chest…”
Several experts in unison believe that delaying gratification works as an aphrodisiac. The thrill and chase of seduction is something that makes sex more pleasurable than anything else.