A deeper connection beyond the bedroom is not built in a day. It takes time and effort. Here’s how you can achieve deep intimacy outside sex.
When we talk about intimacy in a relationship, our first instinct is always to think of physical intimacy or sex. Sexual intimacy and chemistry are vital for a healthy relationship, one simply can’t avoid the need and importance of the intimacy that is beyond sex.
Real and true connection is beyond the bedroom chemistry. There are different forms of intimacy outside of sex, and couples need to explore them in order to maintain a happy relationship in the long run. It’s about being truly connected to your partner, truly investing yourself in the partnership. The meaningful, deep and vulnerable sense of intimacy comes when you try to see other aspects of it and not only sex.
With experts’ advice, Team Wedding Affair brings you ways you can build intimacy outside of sex and grow a deeper connection with your partner. Keep reading to learn more.
Practice Open and Honest Communication
The most important yet often overlooked factor in a relationship is open and honest communication. No matter how much you love and care for your partner, if you don’t express yourself or listen to them, you won’t be able to build a deep intimacy outside of sex.
Open communication means expressing everything—your fears, your dreams, your past, your values and your insecurities. Instead of just asking about their day, sit with them and ask deeper questions like, “What’s something on your mind lately that you haven’t shared with me?” This kind of conversation opens room for depth and brings emotional closeness.
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Be Present with Each Other
It is quite easy to get distracted in the age of smartphones. While you are on your phone continuously, your partner might feel neglected by you. Your attention and time are the most valuable gifts you can give your partner in today’s time.
Leave work and everything else behind when you are with your partner. Make eye contact with them, listen actively and notice their body language. You’ll notice the emotions beyond words that you didn’t know were there.
Cultivate Shared Experiences
Doing things together is one of the most effective ways to build intimacy outside of sex. These moments help not only create lasting memories but also strengthen your bond.
Shared hobbies and interests are a great way to start. Think of cooking a meal together for dinner or jamming to music together. You can stay home and simply watch your favourite movies together, or take a trip for the weekend away from home to reconnect and bond.
Embrace Non-Sexual Touch
If you think physical connection means only getting freaky in the bedroom, you are doing romance wrong. It is way more than just sex. In fact, physical touch is one of the five love languages and it is about showing the other person your affection by making non-sexual touches and gestures. Touches like holding hands, cuddling while sitting, forehead kisses, hugs that last longer than usual, help communicate your love, comfort and care, paving the path for a deeper intimacy outside sex.
Create Rituals of Connection
Monotony can get boring. But to maintain a long-term relationship with your partner, you need to plan small activities that can make a huge impact on your intimacy. It can be a small goodbye kiss daily before work, a weekly coffee date in the nearest cafe, a monthly long drive and more. These kinds of rituals build consistency and a sense of “us” that only strengthens your relationship.
Support Each Other’s Growth
True intimacy is built when both partners feel supported and encouraged to become the best versions of themselves. Cheer each other on, challenge with kindness, celebrate each other’s successes and give your shoulder in case of setbacks. It shows your respect towards their individuality, creating comfort and trust in your partnership.
Read Also: The Need for Intimacy: Balancing Heart and Body
Building deep intimacy outside of sex is not impossible, and it is essential for a fulfilling relationship and marriage. So invest in your emotional, intellectual and spiritual intimacy—one small gesture a day.
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