Kissing tips and techniques for the first timers

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Kissing can be totally awesome or super cringeworthy. On one hand, a great kiss or make-out session can leave you feeling amazing. Science even tells us that kissing can actually be great for your health by increasing life satisfaction and reducing stress, which is two definite wins. On the flip side, some kisses just aren’t great, especially if done incorrectly. Making the idea of swapping spit with another human less than ideal. If you have ever wondered where you fell on the kissing spectrum, these tips and tricks are here to help improve the game of the first-timers. We can’t always control when the mood for a kiss strikes, but a little preparation goes a long way. You don’t need to overthink it. 

  1. Start with the tip of the tongue – Less is more, especially when it comes to anything tongue related. Nobody likes saliva all over their face. Instead, start with brief, gentle touches with the tip of your tongue to theirs.
  2. Ease into it – Start the kiss with slow, gentle, and light pressure. A single, soft kiss is simple and sweet, and it is easy to build it up. Try varying pressure slightly, or shifting your focus from their top lip to the bottom lip.
  3. Pay attention to body language – This is how you can learn more about what your partner likes and doesn’t like. Not everyone uses verbal cues, which means you have to pay attention to see what’s working. The best kiss is one where both partners are happy.
  4. Gradually increase the intensity – You don’t have to go full-steam ahead into a heavy make-out session, but you also don’t want to drag it out too long. Gradually build up the kiss into something more, and don’t be afraid to tell your partner what you like or don’t like. 
  5. Make eye contact between, or even during, kisses – Don’t be afraid to sneak a peek at your partner between kisses. If you do make eye contact mid-kiss, it is better to keep it short unless you know your partner prefers intense eye contact.

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  6. Take a break from their lips – As the kiss is heating up, don’t be afraid to switch up locations. A good kiss might involve a series of kisses along their jawline, collarbone, or even on their earlobe.
  7. If you are going to bite, be gentle – Not everyone is comfortable with using teeth during a kiss. Which means it is better to stick to a gentle tug on the lips. Anything more than that might be worth a conversation to see what you and your partner are comfortable with.
  8. If you have not already, get closer – Once you are ready to build your kiss further, eliminate the space between you and your partner. Physical proximity can be amazing, and it helps make the next steps much better. 
  9. Explore other erogenous zones – There are a lot of “feel-good” places on the body, and everyone is different. Get to know your partner’s different erogenous zones, like the ears or neck, and pay attention to their reactions to see where they are most sensitive and responsive. You can even move to different parts of the body if you feel like gradually building it up to something more.
  10. Start using your hands more – Kissing is a full-body experience. Not only does consensual touching feel amazing, it is even great for your health too. Don’t be afraid to hold your partner close, run your hands through their hair, or stroke their arms, back, or whatever body parts they madly like. 

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