Most of us want a ‘happily ever after’. We all want sincere partners, partners who we can commit to and who can offer commitment to us in return. While it is as easy as ever to fall into the temptation of being insincere because the various social media platforms and dating sites make numerous people available to us in just a few clicks. Hence, it has become excessively difficult to find someone who doesn’t let go of your hand at the first sight of trouble. Finding someone who looks forward to building something with you, is the person you’d want to be with. It is better to be aware of the rules of the game so as to avoid heartbreaks and unnecessary hurt.
Attachment Avoidance
Our attachment styles have more impact on our relationships than we think. Only individuals who are able to establish secure attachment with their partners are able to work out through the difficulties. The securely attached individuals talk to their partners and work it out as and when problems arise, whereas individuals who have the avoidant pattern tend to recluse away from their partners. People with attachment avoidant pattern don’t turn towards their partners rather they turn away from their partners. The avoidant partners steer away from each other and thus fail to create a safe and trusting environment. Avoidant husbands retreat away from their partner back into their cocoon while avoidant wives give silent treatment to their husbands. This results in an avenging attitude in some.
Opinions Matter
Figure out what your partner has to say about casual hookups. Get to know what your partner thinks about casual intimacy. You must be thinking how does it even matter. The fact of the matter is that it does. The opinions that your partner holds is a lot more telling than we think. If your partner is of the belief that sex is an intrinsic part of love and that one cannot go without the other, if your partner’s beliefs centres around this idea, then you shouldn’t be getting all worked up. It is only if your partner believes that casual sex ouside of committed relationships is acceptable, then you have something to be worried about.
Past Behaviour
One’s past is not something that one can simply shrug off as one moves forward in life. One’s past is an efficient shaper of their future. Therefore, it is also a great teller of what is in store. Do get to know how your partner’s relationships had been in the past. History doesn’t necessarily repeat itself, but sometimes it does. So, it is better if you don’t err on the side of caution. If your partner has had multiple partners in the past at the same time, the behaviour is most likely to continue in the future as well. It is better to know details about your partner’s relationships in the past such as how long did it last, why did it end, how committed they felt to their former partner etc. These details can help you gauge the personality of your partner.
Look At The Family
One very strong determinant to whether a better hakf is likely to cheat or not can be said effectively by taking a look at the parents. Parent relationships do have a strong impact on their children. Most studies have shown that parental infidelity can be linked to children’s infidelity. The reason we suppose is because having seen it very closely, the children of infidel parents could develop lenient attitudes towards cheating.
The Monogamous Lover
There are people who you might think prove to be unfaithful but are actually not. Partners who have serially been in monogamous relationships in the past are likely to not cheat. Most of the times, they are chasing the thrill of their newfangled relationship.
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