Ways to merge eroticism & intimacy for a committed relationship

Sexuality is something that can be considered as the energizing factor in an individual’s relationship. At its top, sex is the determining factor of the complexity and intimacy of a relationship and the deepness of the emotional bond between couples. The best approach to understand it is by the dynamics of the relevant relationship. A vigorously healthy sexual life represents the quality of emotional bond existing between couples. The couples that tend to cherish one another; are affectionate towards their love and do whatever it takes to confirm the growth of their relationship.

They are satisfied with their sexual lives. In contrast to this aspect most of the couples face problems in merging intimacy and eroticism in their dedicated relationship. Nowadays couples are facing a common problem of reduced sexual desire after dating for a couple of months even after establishing a deeper intimate and emotional bond. It is henceforth, extremely important to merge the essence of eroticism and intimacy in order to have a long-term committed relationship. 

Eroticism basically refers to excitement and desire. This might include kinks, fantasies and fetishes. Further on it might also include liveliness and assisting you to be more open minded while having sex instead of being stuck inside of your head. It particularly makes you realize what you need or it helps you to notice, moreover there has to be sexual confidence and expression. Normally it does not contradict with anyone’s love or emotions but sometimes it does. Coming towards intimacy, it is actually referring to the emotional closeness in couples.

Every couple tends to express the intimacy of their relationship in different ways. If you tend to have deep conversations with each other it will help you make a deeper bond with each other, so it is very beneficial to talk about your fears, insecurities and dreams. It is a fact that your partner might make you feel much positive by providing emotional support.

You may also feel good when they give you a complement and that complement touches your soul, it’s not about a physical touch. So, keeping in mind the slight differences between eroticism and intimacy, consolidating these two to spark the fire in a lovely love-coated bond is necessary in these following ways –

1. Of course, it’s beautiful to feel deep love, intimacy and connection, but if you are not feeling the spark then you don’t feel desire. Sexual chemistry can begin to wane at the two-year mark, so it is important that you speak each other’s sex language in order to keep the eroticism alive.
2. It is quite common to think that sex simply consists of kissing and intercourse, yet there is so much more to it than that. A healthy sex life is all about discovering each other’s pathways to arousal and keeping the discovery ongoing. To achieve this, experiment with sex toys, share a dirty story, or reminisce over your previous memorable sexual moments together. 
3. True intimacy starts with being connected with yourself. After all, you need to know how to listen to your own sensations and emotions, and be in tune with translating those signals into responsive reactions, before you can be truly intimate with your partner.
4. Whether it’s a pause to look into each other’s eyes, or holding hands and sharing what you appreciate about your partner, slow down and enjoy being with one another. What you send out is also what comes back. The more you open yourself and carve out time to connect with one another, the more you feel love and intimacy.

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