Be the perfect bridesmaids when the lehenga is heavy, and the emotions are heavier. This is your ultimate survival do’s and don’ts guide.
Picture this: the mehendi artist is running late, the saree pleats won’t sit perfectly right, the makeup chair is uncomfortable, and the bride is moments away from tears. This is where the bridesmaids step in as wingwomen who always have the bride’s back and fix everything with a smile.
Being a bridesmaid in an Indian wedding means many things. She is a personal stylist, therapist, crisis handler and a bride’s best friend to vent every frustration out. It means endless shopping sprees, countless fitting sessions, undertaking secret negotiations during joota chupai and ribbon-cutting ceremonies and choreographing sangeet performances.
If you are a bridesmaid, manage the chaotic, emotional and truly unforgettable role with your best smile as Wedding Affair brings you the ultimate rulebook with bridesmaid do’s and don’ts. Psst!! Save yourself from the bridezilla and read on.
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Bridesmaids Do’s
Each role has its own spotlight in our lives. Make this the best one as the bride’s best friend. Here’s how to do it right.
Be the Emotional Anchor and Stressbuster
Being there for the bride comes with a lot of responsibilities. A wedding is an emotional extravaganza with tears, meltdowns and self-doubt moments coming in uninvited. To be a good bridesmaid, one has to be prepared for all these moments. The job is to be the ear that always listens without judgment when emotions are high.
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Be the Celebration Co-Conspirator
The main goal is to have fun at the wedding and also to make the bride enjoy her big day to the fullest. For this, be prepared to fill the bride’s feed with relatable memes, send her Pinterest moodboards for inspiration and be the negotiation mastermind. Plan the groom’s welcome well and the secret mission to steal the jootas, because honestly, being a good bridesmaid means being the best negotiator and mastermind in the lot. And dancing till the sun comes up goes without saying.
Be the Quiet Problem-Solver
What’s a bride’s best friend for if she cannot solve her problems in the blink of an eye? A wedding is the moment that tests your problem-solving skills. Help the bride get dressed, manage jewellery and carry an essential fashion and beauty emergencies kit. Secret Tip: Befriend the bride’s mother, as it helps you more than you think.
Be the Party Planner
A bride’s best friend has to have many feathers in her cap. Put your party organisation skills to use when you plan the surprise moments for the bride. Whether it’s a bridal shower or a bachelorette party, plan something that makes her feel truly overwhelmed.
Be the Ultimate Shopping Buddy
From wedding favours to choosing the wedding ensembles to the final outfit fittings, be there for your bride-to-be. Prepare yourself for the last-minute alteration runs because all know masterjis rarely get the measurements right the first time.
Bridesmaids Don’ts
Grace is in knowing when to step back from something and put on a smile when the going gets tough. Here’s what to avoid doing as a bridesmaid.
Don’t Overstep Boundaries
Disagreements are quite natural. There may be times when you might not agree with the order of things. You may feel strongly about a decision of the bride, but remember, it is her wedding. Respecting the bride’s opinions and, at times, the traditions she follows is the golden rule, even when they differ from your choices.
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Don’t Create Conflict
Disagreements may arise as stated, but they need not escalate into a conflict or an untoward moment that would spoil everything. The polar opinions, picky relatives and at times the comments add to tension, but smile through it and focus on creating memories as the bride’s best friend.
Don’t Go MIA
Being an unresponsive bridesmaid is worse than a sin. When the bride needs you, you have to be emotionally and practically available for her. In moments like these, she will remember who will stand by her.
Don’t Be Late or Leave Early
Missing an event or being late to it is the biggest red flag. Plan your leave well in advance and never skip the pheras. When you are the bride’s best friend, your presence means more to the bride than you realise. And yes, she will definitely hold it against you if you miss any moment.
Don’t Compete with the Bride
A wedding is the bride’s special day. So, avoid matching her colour palette or trying to outshine her in any way. This is her moment, and you, as her bridesmaid, have to elevate that to rival her.
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This is for all the bridesmaids who are partners in chaos, loyal wingwomen, and the bride’s safe space. Follow these pearls, and you won’t just help plan a wedding but create memories that the bride will cherish forever.
FAQs
Question 1. How many bridesmaids should be there?
There is no fixed number. Indian weddings often include sisters, cousins and the bride’s best friends as emotional support to navigate the chaos.
Question 2. Can bridesmaids choose their own outfits?
It depends mainly on the bride, the event theme and the dress code. Some brides do prefer coordination, while others encourage individual styling within the colour palette.
Question 3. Are bridesmaids responsible for wedding planning?
A bridesmaid is not a wedding planner but rather a helper with support, coordination and emotional availability as more important than logistics.
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