Yes, Post-wedding Blues are a real thing. But don’t worry! We will help you overcome it.
Months of planning, even years for some, for one special day your wedding. That big day finally comes, and you celebrate it with your family and friends, creating memories for a lifetime. The love, the joy, the celebration, even the honeymoon – all once-in-a-lifetime experiences to cherish forever. Everyone prepares you for this, but no one prepares you for what comes after.Â
What comes after is known as Post-wedding blues. After all the long-awaited celebrations are over, you suddenly face an emptiness inside you. The whirlwind of emotions is nowhere, leaving you only with a feeling of grief and sadness. And now you are worried about these sudden changes of emotions, wondering what changed, what to do next, and most importantly, how to cope with it.Â
You’re Not Alone
Though the term may sound very unfamiliar to you, the depression after the wedding is over is not. According to studies, over one-third of newlyweds go through these feelings after their wedding. Most people don’t take it seriously, like any other mental health issue. But post-wedding blues are very real and happening to a large population. So it’s time this should be taken seriously and talked about so that couples can be prepared to face it.
What Are Post-Wedding Blues?
Post-wedding blues are a feeling of sadness or emptiness that follows the excitement of someone’s wedding day. The sadness and emptiness are often accompanied by anxiety and depression too. It’s a common reaction to the end of such a significant event in one’s life that comes with an emotional rollercoaster. People can experience similar feelings after any big ups and lows in their lives, it’s the expectation of a wedding and the unfamiliarity of a new start that can make anxiety worse.
Why Does It Happen?
- Emotional rollercoaster: the excitement for a wedding starts long before the actual wedding day. The planning takes months, for some even years, and the anticipation begins from the beginning. All this buildup ends suddenly after the wedding and life happens. The transition from the high adrenaline rush of a once-in-a-lifetime celebration to mundane life becomes unsettling for one’s emotional state.
- Anticlimax: The sudden mundane life, which was regular life before the wedding planning began, can suddenly feel unfamiliar after the joy and excitement of a wedding. Compared to the wedding days, every regular day seems dull. This is why it is important to remember that your wedding day marks the beginning of your new life, and there are a whole lot of new things and experiences to look forward to.Â
- Lack of concentration: It’s not uncommon to be so engaged in planning your wedding that you lose sight of your life beyond. So many people struggle to remember their goals and aspirations after their wedding which might make them feel lost.
How To Cope With It?
- Talk to your spouse: Whatever you’re going through, whatever you’re feeling, share it with your partner. They’re probably going through similar emotions, and you both can support each other and go through the rough patch together.
- Reconnect with your interests: Have your hobbies and interests taken a backseat in the whirlwind of wedding planning? Start pursuing them again, and rekindle with the activities that give you joy.
- Find new interests: A wedding may be a one-day thing, but it opens the door for lifetime experiences together with your spouse. Start exploring new hobbies together. Set new goals for your life together and plan accordingly with your partner. Hobbies that make both of you happy and let you spend quality time together will strengthen your bond.
- Surround yourself with loved ones: The last thing you should do when going through any mental health condition is completely isolate yourself. Spend time with friends and family after your wedding. This will not only distract you but also provide you with the help and support you need.
- Consult professionals: If you have already tried all the above-mentioned ways and still having post-wedding blues interfere with your daily life, it’s time to seek professional help now. Consider seeing a therapist or counsellor, who can help you understand and manage your emotions to navigate this transitional time.
Always remember, the true joy of a wedding is lasting and meaningful, and goes way beyond celebrating your wedding day. It’s the life after that is more exciting, filled with new experiences and outcomes. So hop on the ride and explore the newness. Prioritise your marriage over your wedding and live happily ever after.
