French kissing is arguably the most intimate part of the courting ritual. It is an aphrodisiac as much for the mind and heart as it is for your other bits. Getting it right makes everything wonderful. French kissing does not have to lead to sex, of course; a good makeout session can be an exciting, intensely romantic experience all on its own. Here are a few tips to pucker up and get it right.
- Do not obsess about your breath – Your breath does not need to be any more minty-fresh than your kissing partner. For instance, if you both just had dinner together and ate equally garlicky meals, bring some mints or some gum with you, but don’t pop them obsessively. It is not necessary, and it will make you look over-eager.
- Start with your lips – The first thing that comes to mind when you think about French kissing is probably your tongue, but that should not come into play right away. You should ease into it and follow your partner’s cues. Start just by lightly kissing the surface of the lips either the top lip, the bottom lip, or both.
- Do not make your tongue the star of the show – A kiss without any tongue at all is perfectly fine. When you are ready to take it to the next level, open your mouth just a little wider and gently touch your tongue against your partner’s. Let the tips of your tongues “play around” together. Don’t do much more than that, though. One common rookie mistake is trying to stick your whole tongue down someone’s throat. At the very least, you will create an awkward moment; at the worst, you will become an embarrassing story your partner tells for years. When it comes to tongue, a little goes a long way, and teasing can be very arousing.
- Do not forget to breathe – Take regular breaks to pull away and look into your partner’s eyes. It will give you a chance to catch your breath, share a smile, and savour the moment. It will also help slow things down a bit and any good lover will feel sexier.
Behance - Use your hands wisely – The best spots to place your hands are along ​your partner’s neck, jaw, or waist, or on the back of your partner’s head. If you want to be extra-romantic, softly cup your partner’s face. Using your hands while you kiss helps make things far more romantic, sensual, and tender. Never just leave them by your side; that is just awkward, and you are missing an opportunity to make your partner feel more than just your tongue.
- Mix it up – Do not leave your lips or your tongue in the same spot for more than a couple of seconds. The initial excitement of a first kiss is thrilling, but things can get boring awfully quickly if you don’t vary your style a little. Use your tongue to gently explore all the soft, sensuous places in your partner’s mouth.Â
- It’s okay to laugh – You might be tempted to laugh or make a little joke to ease the tension or hide some of your nervousness, then go for it. Your partner is probably just as nervous as you are, and it will ease the tension all the way around. On a purely physical level, kissing is rather funny, and sometimes, it is just best to acknowledge it.
- When in doubt, follow your partner’s lead – You do not need to be an expert on kissing to share a great kiss. If you are not sure what to do, just go with the flow and let your partner take over. As long as the two of you like each other and are concentrating on the magic of the moment, it will go great.Â
