Pre-Wedding Jitters
Pre-wedding jitters can usually happen when you are going ahead with one of the biggest decisions of your life such as getting married and it can create a wave of emotions before D-day arrives. Questions like, “what if this is a mistake!” or “am I ready for this big step?” could pop into your head, even when you are deeply in love with your person. Wedding jitters are normal, we as humans often experience a mix of emotions when something major is about to happen and we are moving towards a change.
Understanding the Jitters
Pre-wedding jitters are a cocktail of emotions, it can be excitement mixed with anxiety and fear about this big step. Jitters are the expected reaction to any major change coming in your life and it’s different from cold feet. Cold feet can be about something more serious like major fears that you have been shadowing for a long are now becoming a part of your everyday thought process. For instance, thinking of the red flags that you have been ignoring so far about why a relationship might not work for long. We should be mindful of not confusing them with each other.
Focus on Why
The Spotlight effect can be a reason as it’s your wedding, you are the lead actor of that movie and being the centre of attention wholly could be triggering. In such situations don’t be afraid and be confident because it’s your thunder and the whole crowd should celebrate you. An overwhelming feeling can also be caused by decision fatigue. From selecting the venue, to making intricate décor choices and wanting everything to be extremely flawless can keep one under major pressure. Another reason for getting jitters could be that, even after putting in so much effort to create a perfect day, something could unexpectedly go wrong.
Find Solutions
Be open and honest with your partner and discuss your anxieties and concerns openly. Create a space to communicate by planning together to address those pre-wedding jitters and step ahead with a plan to address them while navigating the planning process with ease. Connect with your close friends and family for emotional support as and when needed. Share your anxieties and concerns with loved ones who can offer a listening ear and words of encouragement. Pre-marital counselling is one of the proactive measures you can take before being married so that you can professionally be guided to get answers to what lies ahead and things you should know. This will help you to know what kind of work is needed from your end for the marriage. Also getting proper sleep, keeping yourself hydrated and delegating the task helps a lot. Weddings are meant to be extravagant and there should be a balance of experiences and relevant detailing over unnecessary flashing.
Setting realistic expectations for yourself and your partner alleviates premarital jitters and anxieties. It’s your wedding and you are the prince and the princess of this event. Planning things thoroughly helps in knowing the pros and cons of the situation you are getting into, and it somehow becomes easier to accept it. You are getting married and you should enjoy the wedding as much. Don’t try to get worked up by arranging small things all by yourself. Always step up to delegate and appoint a trusted wedding planner to manage the logistics and details and take the help of reliable friends and family members for other intimate chores. Empowering others allows you to focus on the bigger picture and avoid the jitters from the workload.
Prioritize your physical and mental well-being with a self-care routine. Pre-plan the sessions to keep your body relaxed during all wedding festivities. Make appointments for regular massages, relaxing baths, spas etc. Take proper sleep with a balanced diet and keep yourself hydrated to manage jitters effectively. Sit close to nature and practice mindfulness practices by dedicating time each day to calm your mind and focus on the present moment. Between all the planning happening around you, don’t forget the core reason for your wedding.
Always focus on your love story and what brings you together. Make time for each other by scheduling regular “us time” to reconnect as a couple and remind yourselves of the joy and commitment that brought you to this point.
Calm, Conquer, Celebrate
Remind yourself to be present and enjoy every moment of your wedding day. Savour the celebration with your partner and loved ones and embrace all the moments of your union. Take a moment to appreciate the love and support surrounding you. Express gratitude to your partner, and raise a toast to the family, friends and everyone who participated in making your dream wedding become a reality.
Remember to flow through minor inconveniences as the most thoroughly planned events can have unexpected turns as well. Don’t strive for perfection rather embrace the spontaneity and focus on the bigger picture of celebrating this event of becoming one with your love.
