Millennial dating can be tricky and exhausting. With so many reed flags to look out for, one ends up rather disappointed and overwhelmed. But it is always better to be safe than sorry. With the ”swipe-left, swipe-right” culture wherein instant gratification is the only priority, matters of the heart go on the back burner. Often in relationships, we tend to ignore things that we shouldn’t because they are signs guiding our relationship and deciding its course. Wedding Affair brings to you four major red flags that each and everyone should keep in mind.
Late Replies
We have all heard it, “They must be busy” or “He must be travelling”. Okay, got it! But then extremely late replies on a regular basis means that maybe they are not that into you. A reasonable time frame to reply is anything between 15-60 minutes. If it’s anything beyond this, you need to smell the coffee. But if someone genuinely wants to talk to you, they will let you know if they are busy at the moment. They will get back to you as soon as they can. People know how to make time for those they value. Late replies equals disinterest, as simple as that.
The Little Things You Aren’t Supposed To Ignore
Did he you use to call you after you left work? But now he just doesn’t. He avoids taking your calls or meeting up with you, makes lame excuses and seems to be always busy. Remember, if they stop doing the little things they used to do before, they are doing it for someone else. Probably, it is high time you should wipe those tears and move on. The quicker you move away from the wrong ones, the quicker you will find the one.
Vanishing Efforts
Suddenly they start behaving like a completely different person. It seems that you fell for a stranger. The things that came easy, now seem like an uphill task. This red flag should never be ignored, never. Consistency and efforts are the most crucial pillars to a long lasting relationship. Without these, even the strongest of bond will fall apart. If your partner is acting weird lately, ask them about it. Discuss about it, if they are willing to. Don’t wait for the final storm to arrive, be prepared beforehand. Efforts should always remain consistent from both the sides.
Dishonest Communication
Communication is the key to any relationship. And if your partner doesn’t want to communicate, there isn’t much that you can do. An open and honest communication is a must for a healthy, thriving equation. If your better half has started to avoid this altogether, consider this as a red flag. Communication should be carried out naturally and in the absence of it, nothing can survive. Trust is a direct outcome of communication. If there’s no trust, what’s even the point of a relationship? The trickiest part about this one is that you can’t force people to honestly communicate with you, if they don’t want to.
‘Harmless’ Lies And Anger
They said they were in an important meeting, but turns out they were at home. Such little lies not only go on to ruin the foundation of any relationship but also destroy the trust. If your partner’s been lying to you, politely confront them. If they admit to it, you can probably resolve the issues. But if they lose their cool and blame you for their lies, there is no way the situation can be saved. You can’t save a sinking boat alone, without any help.
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