Relationships are never the successful ones if there are no extra spices added to them. When you are in love, everything seems fair enough to deal with and so when you fight with your partner and have the occasional heated debate, you grasp the moment to express your part on fire. But when these fights cross into full-blown blow-ups, the argument can quickly get out of hand. Stay calm and follow these guidelines from our effective anger management rulebook to avoid a screaming match and enjoy a lasting relationship. When you are in love, everything seems fair enough to deal with and so when you fight with your partner and have the occasional heated debate, you grasp the moment to express your part on fire.
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Remove yourself from a situation you cannot handle. If you cannot gracefully leave the room, gracefully change the topic.
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Self-righteous indignation will propel you to keep trying to prove your point and will make your wants seem all-important. Henceforth, exit when your anger is at a level three on a scale up to ten.
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Find something to think about that evokes calm images or even laughter. Close your eyes and picture yourself on a beach.
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Even if you have to force yourself — just smile. Smiles soothe and bring forth positive thoughts and feelings of gratitude.
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Before you try addressing the issue again, prepare by picturing yourself offering gestures of niceness. Be sure that you and your partner are securely back in an emotionally light zone before venturing again into sensitive realms.
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Share your concerns on the tough issue, but keep your tone relaxed and collaborative, and look for solutions that work for both of you.
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The goal is to add your perspective by quietly explaining your concerns, not insisting on particular solutions like a child having a temper tantrum.
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Stay clear of accusing and blaming. Focusing on what you don’t like about what the other person has done will only cause more relationship problems.
